I think that living with someone like Angel(us), someone who is a control freak
I think that's overstating it, though. Angelus isn't a control freak. I don't think a control freak wouldn't be able to live with a woman as strong willed as Darla for 150 years.
Angelus' particulars is not being obsessed with controlling others, but with not being controlled. He likes being 'daddy' not for the control, but because it proves that he's better at it than his own father was. What he sees himself as doing, is helping people be all that they can be - what Angel winds up doing again with Faith later on.
And you can't do that if you make their decisions for them, like his father wanted to do for him. It's also why he gives up on the Vampire Penn, who he probably could control, but who has no imagination of his own and thus doesn't learn or do anything new or interesting.
I'm not saying he doesn't like control. But it's not the be all end all for him. Angelus might like that he can control Dru, but he gets tired of having to do it, and so he's usually pretty happy to have Spike around occupying her time and making her happy. It makes Angelus freer from her neediness.
And because Spike has an independent streak, and a lot of creativity, he's also a fun person for Angelus to work with. Even though he's also very frustrating for him.
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I think that's overstating it, though. Angelus isn't a control freak. I don't think a control freak wouldn't be able to live with a woman as strong willed as Darla for 150 years.
Angelus' particulars is not being obsessed with controlling others, but with not being controlled. He likes being 'daddy' not for the control, but because it proves that he's better at it than his own father was. What he sees himself as doing, is helping people be all that they can be - what Angel winds up doing again with Faith later on.
And you can't do that if you make their decisions for them, like his father wanted to do for him. It's also why he gives up on the Vampire Penn, who he probably could control, but who has no imagination of his own and thus doesn't learn or do anything new or interesting.
I'm not saying he doesn't like control. But it's not the be all end all for him. Angelus might like that he can control Dru, but he gets tired of having to do it, and so he's usually pretty happy to have Spike around occupying her time and making her happy. It makes Angelus freer from her neediness.
And because Spike has an independent streak, and a lot of creativity, he's also a fun person for Angelus to work with. Even though he's also very frustrating for him.